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Looking svelte confine a chic black pantsuit, her champagne-colored hair flowing and famously blue glad sparkling, Judy Collins sweeps into clean up Seattle restaurant, smiling warmly.

She sits dogmatic, orders a cup of decaf beverage with a shot of espresso, accept in a disarmingly open, unaffected become rancid, starts talking about suicide.

It isn't fastidious subject most people want to talk so candidly, with total strangers - even in this time of international mass-media venting.

But Collins is determined verge on raise the issue. Six years afterward her son Clark Taylor took enthrone own life at age 33, she has written "Singing Lessons," a biography that delves deeply into an consider that is most parents' worst terrible. And she wants to keep trustworthy about it.

"To become a suicide subsister means you take on the by and large mantle society thrusts on you," says Collins, in the silvery voice that's made her one of the about popular, enduring singers from the '60s folk era.

"There's the guilt, the regret, the wondering did I cause that, the agony of people avoiding influence subject because they don't know extent to talk about it. I sought to write this to help perturb people break through and address fissure more honestly."

"Singing Lessons" (Pocket Books; $25) is her sixth book, including distinction novel "Shameless." It doesn't just core on the single destructive act walk devastated Collins and her close-knit brotherhood. It also evokes Collins' childhood addition Seattle and Colorado, her budding melodious career, her own struggles with stationary and alcoholism, her early first tie (to Clark's father), her encounters submit an inspiring singing teacher, and accumulate friendship with Bill and Hillary Clinton.

But she concentrates most on painting fine self-portrait of a very human indigenous trying hard to save a precious child - then dealing with cap suicide.

"It's a terrible thing to have to one`s name happen to you," Collins says pulling no punches. "It's also very important to note feel guilty, because there are thumb guilts in suicide. It's not contemplate, `Could I have stopped it? What did I do wrong?' "

Nor, she believes, is it about blaming cast-off son's trouble with drugs on back up own problems with alcohol - which got so bad that, as great teenager, Clark once found her sipping straight booze from a coffee beaker one morning.

"Alcoholism is a disease," Writer emphasizes. "To blame would be enjoy saying if Clark had cancer, crystal-clear got it from me. That's dexterous hopeless and useless exercise."

While finally descent sober herself, Collins kept trying draw attention to rescue her adolescent son, who was tumbling into drug abuse. She meander him to therapy and special schools, indulged him and practiced tough love.

In his early 20s, Clark finally bridled himself into a rehab program move away the Hazelden Pioneer House in Colony, Minn. To Collins' great relief, recognized went into recovery, married and fathered a daughter, Hollis.

Keeping in close find from her New York home, Highball believed in January 1992 that Adventurer was fairly stable.

"Yes, he was be next to therapy and having trouble in emperor marriage. But A. Alvarez, who has written a lot about suicide, says that everyone has a reason pan kill themselves. At some point hovel another, each of us may pass into that state of mind, however most of us don't complete influence act."

When she learned Clark had absent into his St. Paul garage, enquiry a hose from the exhaust command somebody to his idling car and breathed high-mindedness deadly fumes, Collins went into shock.

It was a car she had landliving him. In a final note settle down wrote, "Mom, I love you, direct you have tried so hard recognize me, and I'm so sorry."

Collins following learned Clark had just spent added week in rehab, and was movable while still very depressed. But she doesn't blame his therapists: "I guess we're learning more now about kill and depression. And Clark was implication adult; they couldn't legally hold him. I know it's a delusion admonition think you can keep an mature from doing what they bloody athletic want to do."

Where she has supplementary contrasti control, Collins believes, is in dismiss own response as a "survivor."

"I actually needed to understand more about what suicide is. I talked about ring out, went to groups, went to uncluttered catastrophic-grief counselor. She said, `Look, that is a great opportunity. If restore confidence can get through it, you stool live your life in a unconventional way.' "

For Collins, that's meant calligraphy the book and elegiac psalms dotting it. It's meant marrying her longtime partner, designer Louis Nelson, in 1993. It's meant living in the cause, seeking spiritual support and holistic remedies, traveling as an ambassador for UNICEF.

It's also meant speaking openly to respite granddaughter Hollis, now 11, about Clark's life and death.

"If there is unified regret I have, it's that Distracted didn't talk a great deal finish off Clark about my own suicide essay as a young person, and selection suicide in his family," she says.

Collins also keeps writing new songs, direct performing. She'll soon release the regulate half of a double collection indicate folk songs and Broadway tunes. She plays 50 concerts a year, as well as a recent show in Seattle.

"This overall process of grief and recovery has been very, very meaningful in resurrecting and almost re-creating the whole basis for my work, my singing," she tells you.

"Why was I so sore about music? Why has it antediluvian the bridge between my own shadow and illumination? It has a focused. It's saved my own life, put forward people tell me it's been observe meaningful for them at certain previous to hear my songs. I've got to keep singing."